If you often hold your tongue, avoiding giving advice, you can now safely pipe up.<\/p>\n
A new study reveals that individuals in their 60s who give advice to a broad range of people tend to see their lives as especially meaningful. At the same time, this happens to be the age when opportunities for dispensing advice become increasingly scarce.<\/p>\n
According to the study, which appears in the March 2016 issue of Social Psychology Quarterly, individuals in their 60s who report giving advice to a wide variety of people\u2014to family members, friends, neighbors and strangers\u2014see their lives as highly meaningful. While adults in the same age group who dispense advice to fewer people are much less likely to report having a high level of meaning in their lives. The study, however, did not survey those that received the advice.<\/p>\n
\u201cThis association between advice giving and life meaning is not evident for other age groups,\u201d said Markus H. Schafer, an assistant professor of sociology at the University of Toronto and the lead author of the study.<\/p>\n
\u201cOverall, we interpret these findings to suggest that the developmental demands of late midlife\u2014particularly the desire to contribute to others\u2019 welfare and the fear of feeling \u2018stagnant\u2019\u2014fit poorly with the social and demographic realties for this segment of the life course. Just when giving advice seems to be most important, opportunities for doing so seem to wane.\u201d<\/p>\n
The study, \u201cThe Age-Graded Nature of Advice: Distributional Patterns and Implications for Life Meaning,\u201d is based on a nationally representative sample of 2,583 U.S. adults who were 18 and above when they were surveyed in 2006.<\/p>\n
Schafer and his co-author Laura Upenieks, a doctoral candidate in sociology at the University of Toronto, found that 21 percent of people in their 60s and 27 percent of people 70 or older reported giving advice to no one in the previous year.<\/p>\n
By comparison, only about 10 percent of people in their 20s (this group also included 18 and 19-year-olds), 30s, 40s and 50s said they gave no advice in the past year.<\/p>\n
\u201cConventional age norms suggest that the ideal mentor or advice-giver is someone who has a lot of life experience,\u201d Schafer said. \u201cHowever, compared to their younger counterparts, older adults occupy fewer social roles, are less socially active, and interact with a more restricted range of people.<\/p>\n
So, while the average 65-year-old may well have more wisdom than the average 30-year-old, demographic and social structure factors seem to provide the latter with more opportunity for actually dispensing advice.\u201d<\/p>\n
Some scholars have argued that the essence of mattering\u2014the idea that one is meaningful and consequential to other people\u2014is most under threat during late-middle age when many people retire and enter the \u201cempty nest\u201d phase of life, according to Schafer.<\/p>\n
\u201cThe mattering perspective helps explain why it is this period of the life span, in particular, when it is important for people to feel like they can still have influence on others through actions such as giving advice,\u201d Schafer said.<\/p>\n
In terms of the study\u2019s implications, Schafer said:<\/p>\n
The results should prompt reflection on the social fabric of American communities and how late-middle age adults fit into the picture. Our findings underscore the importance of giving older adults occasions to share their wisdom and life experiences.<\/p>\n
Schools, churches, civic organizations, and other community groups could consider how to facilitate intergenerational mentorship experiences and to creatively enable more older adults to be advice-givers.<\/p>\n
The message? Your advice may not always be welcome but go for it anyway. You will feel better!<\/p>\n
Piping up can be good for your health<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":1002,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[57,56],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3581","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spring-2016-columns","category-spring-2016"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/healthyaging.net\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3581","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/healthyaging.net\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/healthyaging.net\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healthyaging.net\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healthyaging.net\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3581"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/healthyaging.net\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3581\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8432,"href":"https:\/\/healthyaging.net\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3581\/revisions\/8432"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healthyaging.net\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1002"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/healthyaging.net\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3581"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healthyaging.net\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3581"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/healthyaging.net\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3581"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}